There are women who do decide to become single mothers by choice. They take the time to research this decision and fully understand the implications that this type of choice will give them. Today there is a new breed of women emerging and these are single mothers by choice.
Why Choose to Become a Single Mother?
For many women this choice is made because of their strong desire to become a mother. These women just have not found the right partner and have decided that motherhood will become before marriage.
Other reasons for making this type of decision are age and/or health issues. As you get older it is more difficult to become pregnant and the woman just doesn’t want to wait any longer. Other women have medical issues which mean the time is now or never!
For other women they know that they need energy to look after a small child and simply don’t want to wait any longer for Mr. Right to appear. These women have a good solid career and know that they can take the time to become a parent without jeopardizing their career path.
It has also been shown that women who mentally choose to become a single parent are far less stressed out by their decision. They have researched this choice and are more prepared for what lies ahead. These types of women are independent are proud of their choice and accomplishments.
Choices for Being a Single Mom
The two main options for becoming a single mother by choice are by adoption or by artificial insemination. Being a single mom or having a child without being married is no longer frowned upon. Nobody really thinks twice about anyone being a single mother anymore!
Women who are around the age of 35 and wish to experience being pregnant and giving birth often choose to go the artificial insemination route. You can now choose your donor from a list of characteristics and many women base their choices on what they would like to see in the man of their choice.
Using an anonymous donor is actually the most popular choice. Only about 5% of women use a donor that they do know!
Adopting a child is another solution for being a single mother by choice. To go this route you will need to have a good financial background. Adopting overseas is very popular now, especially for those wishing to adopt a baby or younger child.
To successfully go through the adoption process you will need to prove that you have a backup support system in place. This includes having a reliable babysitter or some form of daycare in place. Having a family or good friend to support you is another plus on your side.
Support for Single Mothers by Choice
If you don’t have close family that lives by you can get support from local online groups in your area. By searching on the internet you will discover support groups and chat rooms dedicated to single mothers. This can be a great way to connect with someone in your community.
In addition there are plenty of self help books on the subject of being a single mother by choice. Once you start looking for resources you will be surprised at what you find!
The Pros and Cons
There is some debate as to whether raising a child without a father is a good or bad thing. Many argue that children need both parents around so that they can learn how to communicate and develop a relationship with the opposite sex.
The worst case scenario of being a single mother by choice is if your financial situation changes. This is especially true if you don’t have a strong backup contingency in place for when something goes wrong.
All of sudden you may have to work more hours just to make ends meet and this means your child isn’t receiving enough attention. This can lead to problems in school and with your relationship with each other.
Being a single mother by choice has worked for many, many women without any issues. As long as this is the path that you choose and you are happy with it. This is all that really matters. Your being a happy mom will reflect on your child and in turn they will be content with what you give them.